Kindness Changes the World
I was taught to always be kind.
It came naturally at a young age for me. It started with something my mom said.
I could not have been more than five when she said it, “Kayla, remember, you must always smile at strangers, even if they don’t smile back. You never know what your smile could be capable of. It could change someone’s entire day. It could make someone who was feeling really sad feel happy.” At five, I did not know the power my smile had. At five, I did not know what suicide or depression was. At five, I did not know what it felt to be lonely. What I did know was that I wanted to be just like my mom and she always smiled at strangers.
It was not for many years after that I truly understood what my smile was capable of or what a few kind words could do or what sticking up for someone who felt voiceless did. Now I know.
Modestly, I asked for stories from friends, family, old classmates, and strangers. I asked them to tell me about a time I did something that influenced their lives. Some I remember doing vividly and others are a distant memory.
I wanted to share them with you.
I wanted to share that by doing SOMETHING, anything, for someone else you could leave an everlasting impression.
“You promised me that I’d be ok after the first year of my mom’s passing. I’ll never forget it. You were right and now I always tell people exactly what you told me. Believe it or not your words helped me get through that first year” – Another motherless daughter
“Nothing really specific, but I think you are truly an inspiration to many, like myself, simply just by watching you rise from the unspeakable pain of losing your Mom and go on to live your best life. You put your whole heart and soul into everything you do and that is as inspirational as it gets! God Bless you always!” – A former classmate of my moms
“When you lost your mom. My heart broke for you and your family. I prayed you would be able to ..there are no right words to say about moving on or it gets better because you never do not does it get better. What you did was embrace your mother’s beautiful heart and shined. You have kept her memory alive in so many wonderful heartwarming ways. When I lost my mom, I did not think I could go on. Never thought I would breathe again. Than I would see your posts. Your strength is beyond anyone I know. Your heart is one of the most beautiful I know. I am rambling. On my darkest days when I just did not want to go on I would see your posts. And they would make me smile. Made me see threw all the pain happiness can be there. You Kayla are an angel.” – An old friend of my mothers
“Even though I don’t see you..I feel as if you have been a part of my world for a very long time. Through your own loss of a parent, you managed to comfort me in the loss of my stepfather and my Mom. You are nothing short of amazing. I never had a daughter of my own, but I could only hope that if I did, she would be as sweet, kind, caring, compassionate, beautiful, smart…as you are. I could go on and on. Thank you for your kindness and love.” – A friend of my family
“Hey Kayla saw your post the other day, I felt obligated to message you. There was a time in high school when Krassowski who was a good friend of mine passed away. I was pretty upset in class-I wanna say it was health-but someone in that class was running their mouth about it and you saw I was upset. From what I remember you basically told the guy running his mouth to shut up and put him in his place pretty good and were super comforting to me afterwards even though we were strangers. For some reason that situation has stuck with me. I’m not usually one to respond or socialize with people over social media but it seemed ironic and I’m glad I could get to thank you for it.” – An old classmate from high school that I thought I was invisible to
“You’re the only other person who really seemed to get what I was dealing with” – Another motherless daughter
“Hey this definitely is out of the blue but I wanted to thank you. You are an absolutely amazing human being, we haven’t talked in a while but the positivity you give to this world is absolutely amazing and I just wanted you to know that; also congrats on the golden retriever! I grew up with them and am beyond jealous! Happy New Year to you and your family!” – An old classmate
“I don’t know where to begin on how you impacted me. For starters your strength and how well you embrace you’re life after everything you’ve been through. My mom has MS and she has been getting worse over the years and I know in the back of my head I won’t have too much longer with her. Seeing the way you talk about your mom is truly inspiring and I can only hope to be half as brave as you when that time comes. You also helped me through everything with loosing ****. My life had completely turned upside down and you reminded me that although it was tough, change could be good and I would get through it. And I did. I’m happier now than I have been in a long time. I’ve met someone amazing and I’m even working on a friendship with ****. So thank you for being the amazing, strong, and selfless person you are.” – An ex of a family member
“Kayla was an amazing friend to me all throughout college, and she was one of my very first college roommates and friends. Kayla not only had a huge impact on my life, but I would say that she actually saved my life in many ways when I was only 19 years old. I was trapped in a physically and emotionally abuse relationship. My ex boyfriend and I lived on our own in an apartment about 10-15 minutes away from Kayla’s home. Kayla and I grew really close our sophomore year of college, especially when I moved so close to her house. I actually fled from the apartment after being attacked for the last time, and I went right to Kayla’s house. Brenda and Kayla took me in right away, and gave me more support than I could have ever wished for. Kayla sat with me, cried with me and listened to me for hours. Brenda and Kayla gave me nothing but kind words, sound advice and shoulders to cry on. I literally had no where to go when I left that apartment, being that I was 3 hours from my family home. I don’t know if I would have ever been able to leave that abusive unhealthy relationship If I didn’t have Kayla as my friend at that point in my life. The love and support that I was given by Kayla and her mom is something that I will be forever grateful for. They helped me in becoming the strong independent woman I am today.” – An old college roommate and good friend
Now I know not everyone was raised with love.
I know some parents put too much pressure on you.
I know some parents did not care at all.
I know some people grew up without parents.
I know some parents abused you.
I know some parents neglected you.
I know there are days when you physically cannot smile.
I know there are days when the world is too dark.
I know there are days when you are the one who needs the smile or the kindness.
Nevertheless, I am asking you to smile anyway.
I am asking you to take the same advice my mother gave 5 year old me and do something with it.
I am asking you to use this year as the platform to change the world around you.
I am asking you to do better than your parents did for you.
I am asking you to do better than the people who abused you or neglected you.
I am asking you to be someone worth remembering when the inevitable happens.
I am asking you to be kind.
Kindness.
Kindness is everything.